7 Unconventional Ways to Balance Mind, Body & Soul

You're unbalanced and you know it because you are disconnected, narrow minded, skeptical, and stubborn.

​Oh yeah. You are wandering around here feeling a lack of purpose and direction in life. You literally go through the day to day motions with no personal goals or dreams to reach. In fact, you are so skeptical, you believe that stuff is all pipe dreams. You can't focus or make decisions. Your creative spark has extinguished. You find you are bothered by tension headaches. You aren't sleeping well and if depression hasn't swallowed you yet, it is right around the corner about to show up at your door.

​You're unbalanced and you know it because you are dull, unfocused, know it all.

You know all of the book facts in the world. Statistics you have down pack and you have a list of facts and figures at the ready to hurl at others in any debate. Yet, you can't trust your own intuition or gut instincts. In fact, you are so out of touch with your own instincts, you criticize others who are in touch with theirs as emotional and illogical. Others experience you as insufferable. Yet for all the intelligence you possess, you aren't at home with your own body, feelings, intuition, or instincts. So often life catches you unaware, and "I didn't see that coming," becomes an often-repeated statement.

​You're unbalanced and you know it because you are either quiet as church mouse or can't zip it to save your life.

Talking with you isn't pleasurable to experience or watch. You fall on one of two spectrums. You dominate conversations, are confrontational, and speak without thinking of the impact of your words on others. In fact, you don't even care. You are a conversational bully. When you aren't doing that, you spend all of your time gossiping about others. Or making up tall tales about your life that lean far from the actual truth. You say the sky is blue and those around you feel they have to fact check you. Don't see yourself there? Well, here is the other side of the coin. You are quiet as a church mouse. People talk condescendingly to you and yet you say nothing. You never stand up for yourself. Your friends and family find themselves wanting to jump in and save you. Conversations with them are often punctuated with, "You can't keep allowing them to talk to you like that."

You're unbalanced and you know it because you can't let go of grudges against others and yourself and you scoff at love and affection.

There are two sides to this coin too. You find yourself setting yourself on fire to keep others warm. The more you do for others, the lonelier and more isolated you feel. You've been burned before in the love department and you are determined you will never allow that to happen again. Love? Who needs it? You can't forgive others for their mistakes because you are incapable of forgiving yourself for your mistakes. You are unable to engage in coping skills or self-care because you have no compassion for yourself. Secretly, you believe you deserve to suffer.

​You're unbalanced and you know it because your self-esteem is low and your motivation is in the toilet.

You feel bloated. You feel constipated. And you are afraid the world knows. You are insecure and self-conscious. You are unmotivated and don't have the energy or drive to change your circumstances. You feel you have no personal power to change the course of your life thus fueling the flames of your irritability. You feel trapped and have difficulty self-regulating because you have secretly convinced yourself it is not within your power anyway.

​You're unbalanced and you know it because you feel a nagging sense of guilt and shame with many things but especially in matters of sex.

I'm not even going to ask you when the last time was that you got laid. Chances are, it has been a while. And even if it hasn't, you probably didn't fully enjoy the experience; probably not even reaching the big O. Whether through religious experiences or trauma, sex is taboo for you. You feel guilt, shame, and numbness everywhere and it follows you relentlessly, even to the bedroom. Where you don't even believe you deserve to be. You hide your nakedness. You struggle to perform because you can't get out of your own head. Sensuality and pleasure are for everyone else but you; so you've told yourself.

You're unbalanced and you know it because you never feel safe, never feel secure, never feel anything is enough.

You don't have a clue how to just be. You constantly are doing. Constantly striving to do more, achieve more, be more. You constantly fear the things you have achieved can be taken away. So you work more and harder. You are so heavenly minded that you are no earthly good. Put another way, you are so focused on the future that you are detached from your here and now experiences; you're here and yet not here. Now your mind and body are paying for it. You feel aches and pains particularly in your lower back and hips though the doctor says all test concludes there is no illness. Because you worry so much about everything, you aren't sleeping well.

Stability

Try grounding exercises such as walking barefoot on grass or soil, standing or sitting with your feet on the ground, or visualizing roots growing from the base of your spine into the earth. Incorporate the color red into your wardrobe. Eat red apples, beets, tomatoes, pomegranates, strawberries, raspberries, sweet potatoes, carrots, turnips, onions, ginger, tumeric, eggs, beans, and nuts.

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Pleasure & Creativity

Use positive affirmations. Try creative activities such as painting, dancing, or playing music. Focus on activities that stimulate your senses, such as taking a warm bath or enjoying a massage. Incorporate the color orange into your wardrobe. Drink plenty of water and incorporate herbal teas. Eat carrots, mangos, oranges, peaches, sweet potatoes, flax, almonds, walnuts, and sesame, coconut, and cinnamon.

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Self-Esteem & Confidence

Use affirmations (I am worthy. I am confident. I am powerful.) with deep breathing exercises. Try core-strengthening exercises such as planks or sit-ups. Take a risk/try something new (learn a language or take a new class). Incorporate the color yellow into your wardrobe. Eat bananas, pineapple, corn, lemons, yellow curry, brown rice, oats, rye, beans, vegetables, and sprouted grains.

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​Compassion & Love

Sign up for therapy or coaching service. Try practicing compassion and forgiveness, both for yourself and others. Spend time with friends, family, and pets. Write in a gratitude journal. Incorporate the color green into your wardrobe. Have a salad. Eat kale, broccoli, spinach, parsley, celery, cucumbers, zucchini, avocado, lime, peas, kiwi, and green apples. Drink green tea or fresh green juice.

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​Communication

Try expressing yourself creatively by journaling, writing stories, writing songs, or writing poetry. Sing. Take communication skills class. Take assertiveness training. Paint. Incorporate the color blue into your wardrobe. Eat blueberries, blackberries, apples, pears, and plums. Drink coconut water, herbal teas. Incorporate raw honey and lemon.

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​Intuition

Try meditation or visualization exercises and pair with deep breathing. Try yoga. Incorporate the color purple into your wardrobe. Eat purple grapes, purple kale, blueberries, purple cabbage, eggplant, purple carrots, and cacao.

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​Awareness & Intelligence

Detox (when medically safe to do so). Incorporate the color white into your wardrobe. Try meditation or visualization exercises. Try yoga. Use essential oils such as sage, lavender, frankincense, and juniper. Practice gratitude.